A lot of people may not know this about me, but I have insecurities about being on camera even though I speak on stage and have a weekly Facebook show.
No matter how much I do it, I still have doubt about how I look and what I sound like.
I know this may be stopping a lot of you from getting in front of the camera, which can hinder your ability to reach your audience.
In today’s episode, I share the tactics I use to deal with my body image, fear of being on camera, and what people are actually doing when they watch your videos.
Are you scared to go live and create content because of your body image? Let me know about it in the comments below.
Hey guys, today I want to talk to you about image, more importantly, being afraid of getting in front of the camera.
A lot of people don’t know this about me, but I actually have a lot of insecurity about coming to you via video. Even though I have an entire Facebook Live show.
I go live on Facebook all the time and I even got up and spoke in front of 3,500 people at Funnel Hacking Live this year. I still struggle with all kinds of fears and insecurity about how I look about how I talk and about my weight.
I know there are a lot of you out there that are not going live on Facebook that are not doing video content because you’re afraid of how you look.
I wish I had some magic bullet, golden nugget thing that would help reach through the camera and like take your insecurity away, but I don’t have it and that’s because I’m still working through it.
Every time I get in front of the camera I have to do the self-talk of like, it’s okay. There’s nothing wrong. Yes, maybe I look different than I want or I’m heavier than I want, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have something of value to bring to the world.
I also remember that people pay a lot less attention to you than you do to you.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched the video and absolutely hated it and I’ll show it to Alex or friends or colleagues and nobody sees the things that I see.
I can pick out at least 15 imperfections and some of you watching might think I’m crazy, right? Because you’ll be like, of course, Julie, you look fine, you look great, but I can assure you that if you got on camera, I would say the same about you.
I hope that provides a little reassurance. I know it does. For me, I know that at the end of the day that the value I bring to the world is far more important than how I look or what clothes I’m wearing.
But it’s really hard to hold onto that truth when the media and frankly my industry, the marketing industry paints a different picture right?
You see it everywhere, you perfectly, you know, photoshop, selfies, even something like as cool as you know, Kate Middleton, having a baby and coming out of the hospital seven hours later looking better than I do on my best day.
There’s a lot of pressure for us to look amazing all the time, but it’s not attainable and it’s not real life.
What I can do is say to you that you are going to be more valuable to your followers when you show up authentically as you are than worrying and obsessing about what your weight is like or how you sound or how you talk or what you’re wearing.
And know that even the most put together of Gurus are probably hiding some pretty significant insecurities if you look below the surface.
I would love to know what you think about all this. I would love to know if you’re not going live or not doing video because you’re scared and feeling insecure. If you are, please comment below. Let me know what’s going on and know that I too am still struggling.
Even right now. I’m acutely aware of the things that are not perfect about the shot or about how I look, but I’m going to do it anyway and I hope you will too.
And as always, the best conversations happen after the camera stops rolling. So if you have any thoughts or you want to see more videos like this, you can go to Juliestoian.com.